Three ways to Train your mother to accept your boundaries

Chose your boundaries and defended them powerfully.

Identify the areas where you are most vulnerable and find ways to boundary those.

Communicating your boundary

  • Be firm and decided.
  • Make clear statements
  • Do not phrase your boundary in the form of a question. E.g., would you mind if I miss the family dinner? If she says ‘yes, I want you here,’ that’s going to be a problem. A clear boundary would be, I am not coming to the family dinner Thursday.
  • Set clear boundaries that do not invite discussion or show any hint of fear.
  • Practice with someone so that you can become comfortable with what you intend to say.



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Joanna Daniel

Joanna Daniel

I write about trauma, healing and the Christian community.